Since 2019, January 13 marks national hypersensitivity day. The opportunity to ask two professionals for the keys to transforming this characteristic into a major asset
Quarter of the French population
A quarter of the French population is “hypersensitive”, according to Saverio Tomasella, the doctor in human sciences, psychoanalyst, and author of Hypersensitive: too sensitive to be happy?
This characteristic consists of feeling the emotions in an intense, amplified, and above all unfiltered way. The psychoanalyst classifies these people into “three large families”. That of the “hyper sensory”,
very sensitive to light, noises, smells and textiles, the “emotional”, who feel a “wider range of emotions “, theirs and those of those around them, then finally those. and those who “think all the time, who doubt and rehash what they are told”.
By definition, the hypersensitive is subject to daily external stimuli, which can sometimes complicate the days and relationships with others. Instructions for use to best experience your hypersensitivity on a daily basis.
The first thing to do is to recognize his great sensitivity and accept his difference. “As long as the person does not recognize that he is hypersensitive, he will tend to suffer from it, to want to be like the others when he is not,” says Saverio Tomasella.
Another important point: “Be clear about the perception of your hypersensitivity. What image, what representation do we have of oneself?
”Explains Nathalie Clobert, psychologist hypnotherapist and author of Tame your hypersensitivity
Stop considering it to be a fault
This “personality characteristic”, as the psychologist defines it, does not only have negative aspects. Let’s see our hypersensitivity as an asset in certain situations. If we feel like we are an emotional sponge, let’s look at it differently.
Rather, let’s remember that we are capable of a lot of empathy and that we understand the people around us particularly well.
Advantage of his emotions
To take advantage of his emotions, the two professionals agree on the importance of maintaining his sensitivity. “For people who love the arts, this is a real asset. They will be able to develop a sensitivity with much more intensity, subtlety and finesse ”, describes Nathalie Clobert.
“Anything manual and creative will help hypersensitive people to refocus on themselves, to feel good about their body,” adds Saverio Tomasella.
Let us also not hesitate to develop our artistic sense as a spectator by going to exhibitions, to the cinema and as an actor by practicing an activity such as dancing or drawing.
“You are too emotional”, “do not cry in front of others”The hypersensitive are familiar with this kind of remarks. However, there is nothing to be ashamed of when we express our emotions.
Crying after a hard day, at home or in public, does not make us fragile or weak. The shame of his hypersensitivity is linked “to the look that our parents or our educators had on sensitivity”, underlines the psychoanalyst.
If we cannot let go of the humiliation we may feel when expressing our emotions, meditation or therapy can help.
Live your emotion fully
“In a supportive environment, at work with caring, welcoming or respectful colleagues, the person can cry in front of everyone,”
says Saverio Tomasella. If tears come to our eyes in public , there is nothing wrong with crying or expressing the emotion that is coming.
The most important thing is to “put words into what is happening and what you are feeling.” We can also reassure the people around us about what we are going through, it can be impressive, ”adds the psychologist.